11/29/08 - NNHS Newsletter - Margaret Buckley

Margaret Ann Buckley
(06 Aug 1935 - 28 Nov 2008)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,
  The sad news continues to compound.  Margaret Buckley, older sister of        Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky ('59) of NC and        Carol Buckley Harty ('65) of NC, aunt of        Shari D. Chapman of VA, and first cousin of           Cheryl White Wilson (John Marshall HS - '64) of VA,     Stuart Atkinson (Warsaw HS - '63) of VA        Jean Atkinson Mallory (Rappahannock HS / John Marshall HS - '65) of VA, and     Jim Atkinson (John Randolph Tucker HS - '77), passed away in Madison Heights, Virginia on Friday, November 28, 2008 at 12:25 AM at the age of 73.


1937 - Richmond, VA 1937 - Richmond, VA 1937 - Richmond, VA 1939 - Richmond, VA
Margaret Buckley Margaret and Robert Buckley Margaret Buckley Robert and Margaret Buckley
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1945 - Richmond, VA 1946 - Richmond, VA 1946 - Richmond, VA Saturday, August 3, 1985
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Margaret's 50th Birthday Party
Maxine, Eleanor, and Eleanor Margaret Maxine and Margaret Maxine, Eleanor, Margaret, and Carol
 

To Be Published in the Fayetteville Observer - 12/04/08:


Margaret Ann Buckley

 
  MADISON HEIGHTS, VA - Margaret Ann Buckley, 73, passed away on Friday, November 28, 2008.

Born August 6, 1935 in Richmond, Va., she was the oldest child of Dr. Robert Buckley and Maxine Frix Buckley, both of whom predeceased her.

Margaret suffered a cerebral hemorrhage when she was three days old which left her handicapped in many ways, yet her sense of humor was delightfully off the wall, she was an expert mimic, and few people enjoyed classical music more than she.

On August 23, 1946, she was taken to Lynchburg Training School and Hospital, now Central Virginia Training Center, where she lived the remainder of her life.

She is survived by her younger sisters, Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky of Fayetteville and Carol Buckley Harty of Fayetteville, as well as numerous cousins, nephews, nieces, grandnephews and grandnieces.  Her niece, Shari D. Chapman of Stuarts Draft, Va., was especially close to her, and gave her nurturing love and service over many years.

Margaret's family wishes to express its deepest gratitude to the nurses and staff of the Central Virginia Training Center, especially Maggie Kitchen and Jo Ellen Capps, for making Margaret comfortable during her days there.

Whitten Funeral Home of Lynchburg is in charge.  Arrangements are incomplete. Burial will be private.  A memorial service will be held at a later date.

 
   

 


    From John Murden ('60) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sincerest Condolences":

Carol, 

Please accept our sincerest condolences on the loss of your sister.

Having lost my brother in June, I can feel the loss you are enduring. It is a shock when someone who has been around for you all of your life is suddenly not there.

Please take the time you need for yourself; we understand and share your concerns at this time.

God bless you for all you do for us NNHSers. 

John

   Thank you, John.


  From Ron Miller ('59) of NC - 11/28/08:

Carol -- sorry for your loss of your sister. (Didn't know you had another sister -- always thought it was just you and       Eleanor).
 
Ron

   Thank you, Ron. In one sense you were correct; the three of us never lived at home together.  Margaret left home exactly a year and a day before I was born.  But the connecting bond was real and remained, if only in my mind for now, but always in the eternities.


From Carrie Forrest Fox ('52) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sister":

Carol,
 
I'm so sorry to hear of your Sister's passing today.  I know a little of what you are feeling because I lost my Sister
on the 16th of October.  She would have been 80 tomorrow.  I'm still not over the shock.
 
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
 
Carrie Fox (NNHS '52)

   Thank you, Carrie. I'm so sorry for your loss!  I will keep you in my prayers as well.


  From the President of the Class of 1965, Joe Wingo of NC - 11/28/08:

Dear Carol,

Please accept my sincere condolences over the loss of your sister.

While she had a full life Im sure, we are never fully prepared for the parting of a loved one.

Know I will hold you and your family in my prayers tonight.

God Bless,

Joe

   Thank you, Joe. I really appreciate that.  I like to believe that Margaret's life was full in its own way; I know she enriched the lives of others.


  From Joyce Lawrence Cahoon ('65) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sorrow for Your Loss":


Dear Carol,
 
My heart breaks for you at the loss of your beloved sister Margaret.  I pray God gives you and your family peace, comfort and strength to endure this very emotional period.  I wish I could do more to help other than to tell you how sorry I am.  I have one sister, Mary Lively, who is 70 and I would be devastated if I should lose her. 
 
Please feel free to email me if you just need someone to listen.  I'm a very good listener.   I so wish there was more I could say or do to help.  Just know my love and sympathy are with you and your dear family.

 With deepest regrets,

 Joyce Cahoon
 

   Thank you so much, Joyce.


        From Sydney Dearing ('56) of TN - 11/28/08 - "Margaret Buckley":

Dear Carol,
 
I was so sorry to hear about the passing of your sister Margaret.  I pray God will be with you and your family to help ease your pain.  I know you will hear this many times in the next few days but truly, If there is anything I can do for you, please do not hesitate to ask.  I am sure I speak for everyone else on the NNHS website as well.
 
My deepest sympathies,
Sydney Dearing

   Thank you very much, Sydney. I appreciate that so much.  As we were not raised together, and indeed had very limited contact with one another except in the repetition of treasured family memories, it would be easy to assume I really feel no loss - especially not when compared to that felt by Eleanor or Shari, or our cousin,  Clarke Booth (Wakefield HS - '57 - of FL), who were all very close to her.  Yet somehow, that is not the case.  I suppose that's because in my childhood fantasies, we all lived together - as one day we will again..


From Norris Perry (Warwick HS - '59) of VA - 11/28/08:

I am so sorry to hear about your sister.  Older siblings are real comforts in most lives.  You want to talk about it?  Hopefully she is in a better place.

   Thank you so much, Norris. Of that, I am absolutely certain.  Reflecting back, I think the main comfort I felt from Margaret was just knowing she was there - a link to our past and all the other relatives who preceded her.


     From Melody Clendenin DeBerry (Warwick HS - '66) and      Jimmy DeBerry ('64) of VA - 11/28/08 - "Sympathy":

Dearest Carol,
 
It was with much sadness that we read of the passing of your sister, Margaret Buckley.  Please know you are in our prayers and thoughts at this difficult time.
 
Melody and Jimmy DeBerry

   Thank s so much, sweet Melody and Jimmy.


   From Pam Larmer ('62) of VA - 11/28/08 - "The loss of your sis":

Carol;

Did I see correctly that you lost your oldest Sis? It was almost not seen by me. If you did lose your sis, I am so very sorry.
Please know that I am thinking about you.

Love,
Pam Larmer
Traugott

   Yes, ma'am, I did - and I really appreciate your thoughts.  Thank you, Pam.


  From Charlie Snead ('64) of NC - 11/28/08:

I'm very sorry about the loss of your sister. Remember you have many friends/classmates who care for you and about your loss.

Charlie

   Thank you so much, Charlie.


    From Jean Poole Burton ('64) of RI - 11/28/08 - "Had no idea you had any other sister than        Eleanor... ":

Why have we never heard about Margaret???  So sorry to hear that you have lost her.  

Love, Jeanb

   I'm sorry, Jean.  I thought I had mentioned her several times in the past when she had threatening health issues, but perhaps I only did that in personal emails, rather than in the Newsletter.  I suppose most of my friends who knew of Margaret have passed on themselves.  Thank you for your note and love.


    From Jerry Blanchard ('62) of VA - 11/29/08:

To the real "Sweet Angel" of this site, I wish to add my deepest regrets on the passing of your sister. Our prayers are with you and your family.

Jerry B.

   What a sweet thing to say!  Thank you so much, Jerry.


      From Eleanor Buckley Nowitzky ('59) of NC - 11/29/08 - "Margaret":

Carol,
 
Your account is beautiful. Jo Ellen Capps is the last one who worked closely with Margaret recently. She called me yesterday to say how sorry she was for our loss. I thanked her for her help and for calling. I told her I thought Margaret would be much better off and happier in heaven than she had been in this life, and she said she thought so, too.
 
I did live with Margaret, and I have lots of wonderful memories. Margaret loved classical music. She often sat in a large overstuffed chair in the living room listening to music. From the chair she could see any of us who went upstairs and anyone who walked past her through the dining room to the kitchen. She could also see our neighbors when they came to the front door. Our house was a fun place to be, so we had lots of company. I remember climbing up on the arms of Margaret's chair and then into her lap. Our mother reminded me to be careful not to hurt Margaret, so I moved gently. 
Our mother's sister and nephew,   Alice (Frix Booth - John Marshall HS - '27) and   Clarke Booth (Wakefield HS - '57 - of FL), came to live with us for three years while the "daddies" were in Europe serving in World War II.  Clarke is two years older than I and four years younger than Margaret, and he brought fun with him wherever he went. Our Aunt Alice was so good to Margaret and me that I meant to be calling her my "other Mama", but I really called her my "oven Mama."
 
Margaret loved to be around people, and she was entertaining. She could mimic the sound of Aunt Rosella's (Tuck Davidson) high heels on the wooden stairs. Margaret also devised a way to name pets. She said the Donnelly's dog, Buck, should be called, "Buck Dog Donnelly" so that everyone would know the animal's name, the type of pet, and the name of the owner's family.

   Thank you for sharing your memories, Eleanor.  I love you.

  My own real (as opposed to borrowed) memories of Margaret are limited mostly to our visit in June of 1961 following Clarke's graduation from VMI - and how she sang "God Bless America" through with us without missing a word or a note, having probably not heard it in who knows how many years.

   My other brightest recollection was from the day of her 50th Birthday Party, shown in the above picture.  There were twelve of us together there, and we sang.  We sang every song we could recall that we thought she'd know, happy songs and pretty songs and silly songs, and then we sang all the old hymns (I chose "Abide with Me" for her Newsletter because it was one of her favorites; it always made her cry), and then we sang all the Christmas carols and songs, even though it was early August.  We sang and we sang and we sang - in unison and in harmony - and we laughed and laughed - and it was such a great day!


  From Ruth Ann Reece Horace ('67) of FL - 11/29/08:

Carol,
 
I am sorry for your loss.  Thank goodness for the Church and the sure knowledge we have that we will be together again.  That has helped me greatly through the loss of my son, brother and mother in recent years. 

My love and prayers go out to you,
Ruthie

   Thank you so much, Ruthie. You're right; it is a great and wondrous blessing and comfort.


From My Friend, Judy, of IL - 11/29/08 - "RE: Margaret Buckley":

Carol and Eleanor
 
My condolences on the passing of your sister. I'm sure she is with her loved ones and Heavenly Father and that has to be the better place.
 
Judy

   That's so true.  Thank you, Judy-Judy.


   From the Head Cheerleader of 1958, Evelyn Fryer Fish of TX - 11/29/08:

Dear Carol,
 
I am so sorry for your loss of your sister. 

Lv, ev

   Thank you so much, Sweet Ev.


    From Brownie Shaffer Haracivet ('62) of VA - 11/29/08 - "Loss of Sister":

Dear Carol,
 
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Please find comfort knowing that you and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers during this sad time.
 
Brownie Shaffer Haracivet

   Thanks so much, Brownie.


    From Joe Madagan ('57) of FL - 11/29/08:

Dear Carol and Eleanor:
 
My heart is sad upon reading of the passing of your older sister Margaret. No more pain, no more tears, and in the presence of our Lord.

Mizpah,
Joe Madagan

   Thank you, Sweet Adonis. That is a great comfort to us both.


      From Dimples Dinwiddie Prichard ('58) of NC - 11/29/08:

Carol,
I  am so very sorry to hear about  the passing of your sister, Margaret.  You and 
      Eleanor have my prayers.  She is long last at well deserved peace in the arms of her maker !

Dimples

   That's exactly so, Dimples - thanks so much.


    From Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 11/29/08:

Carol,
 
I just now read of the loss of your sister. I am so sorry to hear about it. But we know she has her new body now and no more suffering and she is just waiting on us to join her some day. I pray God will comfort you and your family during this time of sadness.
 
Glenn

   Thank you so much, Glenn.


  From Jean Baker Howell ('69) of VA - 11/29/08:

Carol,

So sorry to hear about your sister. You and your sister are in my prayers.

Take care, Jean Baker Howell '69.

   Thank you, Jean.  We very much appreciate that.


  From Patsy Bloxom Meider ('57) of NC - 11/30/08 - "Your sister Margaret Buckley":

Carol,
I am so sorry to hear about your sister, I sure know what you are going through, because I am still going through it after my sister
  Connie (Bloxom Thompson - '66) passed away.  My prayers are with you and your family at this time. 
 
Patsy Bloxom Meider  (class of 57)

   Thank you so much, Patsy. I'm still in shock over Connie's passing myself, though obviously not in the same way nor to the same extent you are.


  From My Friend, Joseph Mansfield, of CA - 11/30/08 - "Re: Margaret Buckley":

My condolences on the passing of Margaret. I hope all is well.

   Thank you, Sweetie.  I appreciate that.


          From My #6 Son, Dale Harty (Hillsboro HS, IL / American School, IL - '02) of MA - 11/30/08 - "Margaret":

Mom and Aunt Eleanor,

Wow, I'm a little taken aback at the news of Margaret's passing.  By all accounts I'm sure she is far happier now in paradise with friends and family and freedom from impairment.  I know that doesn't necessarily make it easy to cope with, but it is a great blessing knowing what we do about God's plan of salvation. 
I was at the (Boston LDS) temple on Friday night doing an endowment session and some sealings with
  Diana (Lyons Harty - Portsmouth HS, NH / Eastlake HS, CA - '05 - of MA) .  We got to seal some children to their parents, family files - the submitters were there, but allowed us to sit in proxy for the parents.  The spirit there was beautiful.  Such a pervading calm and peace; a brightness of hope and love fills every space of the temple, but nowhere quite so tangibly as in the sealing rooms.  Diana and I were the witness couple for the session, and I beat her through the veil and was waiting for her in the Celestial Room.  As I waited, I wondered what it would be like to wait in heaven for her.  As time ticked by, I began to anticipate her arrival more and more.  I got excited knowing that very soon she would appear and I could take her in my arms.  Finally she crossed the threshold and I smiled at her and said, "Hello, my sweetheart", as I took her in my arms.  As I held her she told me that she had just been imagining the very same thing as I as she walked into the room and saw me waiting. 

I can only imagine the reunion that took place in heaven on that very night.  The unspeakable joy at reunion at even the thought of her meeting her waiting parents makes my eyes a little inexplicably damp.  I love you, and I'll be praying for the both of you.

Love,
Dale

   Thank you so much, my Sweetie-Weetie. I'm so thankful you had that experience at that very time.


  From George Helliesen ('61) of MI - 11/30/08:

Dear Carol,
 
I am very sorry to hear about the passing of your sister, Margaret.  I feel your tears, I feel your sadness and I feel the loss of Margaret.  I know there is a special place in heaven for her and that she is a shining star at this hour.  Her disabilities have been eliminated in the presence of God.  I'm sure she did much to bring your family closer together and inspired all to appreciate life more.
 
I've asked God to be with you and I can feel His presence.
 
We all love you and thank you for sharing your tragedy with us.  KEEP YOUR FAITH STRONG!
 
Thinking of you,
 
George Helliesen

   Thank you so much, George.  I deeply appreciate your words.  Several of us now have had spiritual experiences related to Margaret's death within the last few days and hours, sure affirmations of her joyous reunions, and our faith is holding and being promoted nicely.


   From Cheryl Mays Howard ('66) of VA - 11/30/08 - "Sympathy":

I was so sorry to hear of your sister's death. Loosing a sibling must be so hard, but His grace and strength will give you peace.
 
Psalm 33:18   We wait in hope for the Lord; he is our help and our shield.  In him our hearts rejoice for we trust in his holy name.  May your unfailing love rest upon us, O Lord, even as we put our hope in you. 
 
Peace & Blessing,
Cheryl

   Thank you, Cheryl. That scripture is a favorite of mine.


  From Jay Styles ('68) of VA - 11/30/08:

Dear Carol,
 
I just returned home and heard the news of your sister's passing.  I cannot imagine your loss.  She is in a better place, that I do know, a place where there are no handicaps, or pain.  My deepest condolences.

Jay Styles, '68

   Thank you so much, Jay Sweetie.


From My Friend, Leslie King Penrod (St. Charles HS, MO - '66) of NC - 11/30/08:

Carol,

Im sorry to hear about your sisters death......  Ive got a sister who is 73 also, and she may not live much longer as she has pancreatic cancer, and she has not done very well since it was diagnosed about 9 months ago.  Shes trying hard to hang in there, though.

Leslie

   Thank you, Leslie. I had not heard of your sister's illness; I'll keep her in my prayers.


From My Friend, Susan Thomas of NC - 12/01/08:

Carol and Eleanor,

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your sister Margaret.  May your fond memories of her comfort you during this time of sorrow.

Love to both,

Susan

   Thank you so much, Susan.


  From Jo Ann Stewart ('64) of Northern VA - 12/01/08:

Carol--I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sister.

Jo Ann Stewart

   Thank you, Jo Ann.


  From Michael Jeffers of VA - 12/01/08 - "Your Sister Margaret":

Dear Carol,
 
My thoughts are with you.  I know you must have many happy and warm memories of the past years with your Sister Margaret.  Please know that my heart and prayers are with you and your family.

Michael
   Michael Darlin', I was still numb and reeling from the news of your dear sister
  Susie's (Jeffers Garrett - '63) passing when my own sister died eight days later.  Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers; you still have mine as well.


   From Butch ('63) and Ethel Ragland of CO - 12/01/08 - "Ref: Your Sister's Passing":


Hello Carol,
 
I am very sorry to hear of your sister's passing and wanted to extend my best wishes and prayer's during this time of great sadness for you and your family!
 
May God Bless each of you and assist you through these coming days.
 
God Bless,
 
Butch & Ethel Ragland
(NNHS-63)
Colorado Springs, CO
 

   Thank you, Butch and Ethel. As always, I am touched by your tender thoughtfulness.


  From My Friend, Emily Adams Bangerter (West HS, UT - '93) of NC - 12/01/08:

Carol, I just got your email about your older sister passing away.  Thank you for sending me the web page you made about it.  I think the world of you and Eleanor - I'm sorry for your loss.

Love, Emily

   Thank you so much, Emily.  We love you, too.


  From Bob ('61) and    Elizabeth Feathers (Hampton HS) Buchan of VA - 12/01/08 - "Your sister Margaret":

Dear Carol,

We are so sorry to learn of the loss of your sister.  Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We hope you will find comfort during this difficult time from the love and concern of your many friends.

Bob and Elizabeth Buchan

   Thank you so much, Bob and Elizabeth. We truly appreciate that.


  From Mary Markiewich Hux ('67) of VA - 12/04/08 - "PASSING OF YOUR SISTER":

CAROL, 

I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR SISTER'S PASSING SO CLOSE TO THE HOLIDAYS.   MY THOUGHTS AND  PRAYERS WILL BE WITH YOU AND YOUR  FAMILY  DURING THIS SEASON.  I  KNOW HOW HARD  IT IS TO  LOSE SOMEONE YOU LOVE.  MY SISTER,  JOAN MARKIEWICH FOSTER, CLASS OF '64, LEFT US ON  DEC. 27, 1996.  I  STILL MISS HER EVERY DAY OF THE  WEEK.  SHE AND I WERE PRACTICALLY JOINED AT THE HIP; OUR HUSBANDS WERE SO  JEALOUS OF OUR CLOSE RELATIONSHIP... WE FINISHED EACH OTHER SENTENCES.  BUT THIS TIME OF THE YEAR IS  ESPECIALLY HARD,  SO KEEP UP THE GOOD MEMORIES AND YOU WILL BE FINE...                                                                                                     
SPECIAL LOVE,  MARY MARKIEWICH HUX  '67

   Thank you so very much, Mary.  I appreciate your tender thoughts, and I'll be thinking of you through this difficult season.


  Y'all take good care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                          Love to all, Carol

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Abide with Me

Words by Henry F. Lyte, 1847
Music by William H. Monk, 1861
 

Abide with me; fast falls the eventide;
The darkness deepens; Lord with me abide.
When other helpers fail and comforts flee,
Help of the helpless, O abide with me.

Swift to its close ebbs out life's little day;
Earth's joys grow dim; its glories pass away;
Change and decay in all around I see;
O Thou who changest not, abide with me.

Not a brief glance I beg, a passing word,
But as Thou dwell'st with Thy disciples, Lord,
Familiar, condescending, patient, free.
Come not to sojourn, but abide with me.

Come not in terrors, as the King of kings,
But kind and good, with healing in Thy wings;
Tears for all woes, a heart for every plea.
Come, Friend of sinners, thus abide with me.

Thou on my head in early youth didst smile,
And though rebellious and perverse meanwhile,
Thou hast not left me, oft as I left Thee.
On to the close, O Lord, abide with me.

I need Thy presence every passing hour.
What but Thy grace can foil the tempter's power?
Who, like Thyself, my guide and stay can be?
Through cloud and sunshine, Lord, abide with me.

I fear no foe, with Thee at hand to bless;
Ills have no weight, and tears no bitterness.
Where is death's sting? Where, grave, thy victory?
I triumph still, if Thou abide with me.

Hold Thou Thy cross before my closing eyes;
Shine through the gloom and point me to the skies.
Heaven's morning breaks, and earth's vain shadows flee;
In life, in death, O Lord, abide with me.


"Abide with Me" midi courtesy of http://www.mommydearest.com/midi.html - 06/01/06

"Abide with Me" lyrics and available history courtesy of http://synergy_2.tripod.com/lyrics/abide.html - 06/01/06

Greg Olsen Paintings courtesy of http://gregolsengallery.com 03/15/05

John Marshall High School's Justice Scale clip art courtesy of Cheryl White Wilson (JMHS - '64) of VA - 10/13/05
Thanks, Cheryl!

Orange Tiger Paw Print courtesy of http://www.henrico.k12.va.us/hs/tucker/resources/about.htm - 11/12/07

Pastel Divider Lines clip art courtesy of http://www.wtv-zone.com/nevr2l82/bars7.html - 05/24/06

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06
Thanks, Al!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!

Air Force Seal clip art courtesy of http://www1.va.gov/opa/feature/celebrate/milsongs.htm - 07/07/06

Navy Seal clip art courtesy of http://www.onemileup.com/miniSeals.asp - 05/29/06

Hillsboro High School's Topper (Band Version) clip art courtesy of http://www.hillsboroschools.net/schools/hhs/activities/music2/Band/bio.html - 06/07/08
Thanks, Mark!

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Eastlake High School Logo courtesy of http://www.geocities.com/ehslearningcenter/ - 10/17/07

St. Charles High School's Pirate Logo courtesy of http://www.stcharles.k12.mo.us/schigh/web2009/index.html - 12/08/08

West High School's Panther Logo courtesy of http://west.slc.k12.ut.us/ - 12/08/08

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