From Joyce Lawrence Cahoon
('65) of VA - 11/14/13 - "Two young boys walked into a pharmacy ...":|
|Two young boys walked into a
pharmacy one day, picked out a box of tampons and proceeded to the
The pharmacist at the counter asked the older boy, "Son, how old are
"Eight," the boy replied.
The man continued, "Do you know what these are used for?"
The boy replied, "Not exactly, but they aren't for me. They're for him.
He's my brother. He's four."
"Oh, really?" the pharmacist replied with a grin.
"Yes," the boy said. "We saw on TV that if you use these, you would be
able to swim, play tennis and ride a bike. Right now, he can't do none
http://www.SelfGrowth.com - 11/11/13 - "Live
|9 Secrets for a Joyful
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Joy is our birthright - a gift of Spirit. Discover the choices you
can make to lead a joyful life.
1. Self-Compassion Rather Than Self-Judgment
In the 44 years I've been counseling clients, I've never had a client
who was not judging themselves—and not realizing the profound negative
effects of self-judgment. Most are afraid to let go of self-judgment,
believing that without judging themselves, they will sit and do nothing.
When they finally take the risk of self-compassion, they realize that,
far from doing nothing, they are now motivated to be far more productive
and creative. If they were previously doing well, it was in spite of
their self-judgment, not because of it. If they were not doing well, it
was because the self-judgment was immobilizing them.
Moving into compassion for ourselves—for our painful feelings, for our
mistakes and failures, for being human—is magical! Self-compassion opens
us to learning, healing and new choices that can bring us much joy.
2. Make it Okay to be Rejected
How much energy do you spend trying to be perfect, saying or doing the
'right' thing, giving yourself up, avoiding being yourself, and not
being spontaneous? The big false belief here is that we can have control
over how others feel about us and treat us. What if you accepted that
you don't have this control over others, just as they don't have this
control over you? What if you accepted rejection as a fact of life, and
instead of attaching your worth to what others think, you define your
3. Define Your Intrinsic Worth
There are two ways to define your worth – extrinsically and
intrinsically. When you define your worth extrinsically, you are
defining yourself by your looks, achievements and performance—and by
what others think of your looks, achievements and performance. This is a
very hard way to live, as you constantly have to strive to feel like you
are okay—and failure is not okay.
When you define your worth intrinsically, you define yourself by your
inborn eternal qualities—the qualities that don't fade with age. While
looks and performance fade with age, intrinsic qualities such as
kindness, caring, compassion, goodness, creativity, passion, aliveness,
joy, curiosity, courage and integrity can deepen with age. When you
define yourself by your intrinsic worth, you are valuing who are, and
then what you do becomes an expression of who you are, rather than a
definition of your worth as a person.
4. Make it Okay to Fail
When you know you are inherently worthy, then it becomes okay to fail.
Rather than failure defining your lack of worth, failure becomes a
learning experience, letting us know what else we need to learn. Making
it okay to fail and not seeing failure as defining you in any way opens
the door to trying new things that can bring you much joy.
5. Don't Take Others' Behavior Personally
Once you define your intrinsic worth, it becomes much easier to not take
others' behavior personally. When you know and value who you are
intrinsically, then you accept that others' unloving behavior is about
them rather than about you.
6. Stay Present in Your Body
When you live in your head rather than in your body, you are thinking
rather than experiencing. You are missing the moment, which is where joy
is. Staying in your head, thinking about the past or future, is a form
of control that most of us learned as we were growing up to protect
against pain. But pain and joy live in the same place in the heart, so
when we avoid the pain of life, we also avoid the joy of life. Rather
than avoiding pain through staying in your head and through various
addictions, why not learn how to manage the pain of life through
developing your spiritual connection? Then you can stay present in your
body, experiencing the beauty, joy and wonder of the present moment.
7. Intent to Learn/Love Rather than Intent to Protect/Control
Our intent is what governs how we feel and behave. When our intent is to
protect against pain with some form of controlling behavior—trying to
control our feelings, others and outcomes—we end up abandoning ourselves
and may feel anxious, depressed, empty, alone, guilty and/or shamed.
When our intent is to learn about loving ourselves and sharing our love
with others, our heart opens and we receive the joy that is an aspect of
8. Higher-Self Dominion
When we give dominion to our mind to govern our thoughts and actions, we
will likely feel badly rather than joyful. The mind has been programmed
with many false beliefs that can cause us much pain. When we open to
learning with our spiritual guidance and give our higher-self dominion
over our thoughts, choices and actions, we operate from truth. The truth
truly does set us free!
Finally, when we focus on what we do have rather than complaining about
what we don't have, and when we choose gratitude throughout the day for
all the small and beautiful things about life, our heart opens to the
experience of joy.
While this might seem daunting, just start with practicing number
one—self-compassion rather than self-judgment. As you get better and
better at this, you will find the other choices much easier to do.
About the Author:
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling
author of 8 books, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful
Inner Bonding® process - featured on Oprah, and recommended by actress
Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis Morissette. Are you are ready to heal
your pain and discover your joy? ...Visit our website at
www.innerbonding.com for more
articles and help...
From My Niece, Shari, of VA -
11/06/13 - "Some Things People Regret the Most Before They Die (#10 in a series
Thank you, Shari!
PATTERNS (Sorry, not theme related):
- Mary Kathryn Vaughn's
Slouchy Spiral Hat - "This
Slouchy Spiral Hat has a unique look when you use multiple
colors while working it up. As you follow the crochet
instructions you'll start to notice a spiral pattern
emerging. The crochet hat is worked side to side instead of
top to bottom."
- Michael Sellick's
Colorful Crochet Hat - "This
Colorful Crochet Hat can be worn during the winter season or
as a fashion statement during the summer season. This free
crochet had pattern can be made with any colors you want,
but we think the rainbow colors used here look great. The
bright colors really pop against the black hat. Colorful
crochet hats like this one are perfect to wear in the middle
of winter they're an instant pick-me-up for dreary days.
|BONUS THANKSGIVING RECIPES:
|A customer at a
counter of a garden ornament shop said to the cashier, “Give me four of
those pinwheels, two of those pink flamingos, two of those sunflowers,
and one of those bent-over grandmas in bloomers.”
The cashier replied,
“That’ll be eight dollars for the pinwheels, ten for the flamingos, six
for the sunflowers, and an apology for my wife!”
DATES TO REMEMBER:
December 5, 2013 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch
gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve &
John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh
Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not
limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in
that year, go visit with them.
2. Wednesday, December 11,
2013 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the
second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat
lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club
Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no
difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For
details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.
Y'all take care of each other!
TYPHOONS FOREVER! We'll Always Have
Love to all, Carol
NNHS CLASS OF '65 WEB SITE:
PERSONAL WEB SITE:
Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309
THREE WAYS TO DONATE:
1. Visit the main page (http://www.nnhs65.com), scroll
halfway down, and click on the Pay Pal Donate Button (firstname.lastname@example.org);
Go to www.PayPal.com, log in,
select "Send Money (Services) to
Just mail it directly to my home. Thanks!
Smoke Gets in
Otto Harbach (18 Aug 1873 – 24 Jan 1963)
Jerome Kern (27 Jan 1885 – 11 Nov 1945),
They asked me how I knew
My true love was true
Oh, I of course replied
Something here inside cannot be denied
They said someday you'll find
All who love are blind
Oh, when your heart's on fire
You must realize
Smoke gets in your eyes
So I chaffed them and I gaily laughed
To think they could doubt my love
Yet today my love has flown away
I am without my love
Now laughing friends deride
Tears I can not hide
Oh, so I smile and say
When a lovely flame dies
Smoke gets in your eyes
Smoke gets in your eyes
"Smoke Gets in Your Eyes" midi
http://wilstar.com/midi/smokeget.htm - 11/13/07
"Smoke Gets in Your Eyes" lyrics courtesy of
http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/heartsinatlantis/smokegetsinyoureyes.htm - 11/13/07
"Smoke Gets into Your Eyes" Image
Animated Blue Light
Divider Line clip art courtesy of
http://www.angelfire.com/tx5/tx5280/lines4.html - 01/01/10
Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of
Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of
VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!
Animated Coast Guard Flag clip art courtesy of
http://www.angelfire.com/ny4/KevsGifsGalore/Patriotic.html - 06/18/03
Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of
Replaced courtesy of
http://www.hamptonhigh1964.com - 02/17/09
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