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11/02/12 - NNHS Newsletter - All Souls Day

“Death is a commingling of eternity with time; in the death of a good man,
eternity is seen looking through time.

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
(28 Aug 1749 - 22 Mar 1832)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,

   Some years we observe this day together; some years we don't.....

BONUS #1 - - Herr, lehre doch mich - Wiener Symphoniker, Thomas Hampson, baritone solo; Nikolaus Harnoncourt, conductor; Vienna, 1988

BONUS #2 - - Herr, lehre doch mich - NHK Symphony Orchestra and Chorus, Dietrich Fischer-Dieskau, baritone solo; Julia Varady, soprano solo; Wolfgang Sawallisch, conductor; Tokyo, 1989



All Souls’ Day is a day of alms giving and prayers for the dead. The intent is for the living to assist those in purgatory. Many western churches annually observe All Souls’ Day on November 2 and many eastern churches celebrate it prior to Lent and the day before Pentecost.

What do people do?

In many Catholic countries, people attend churches, which are appropriately draped in black, and visit family graves to honor their ancestors. All Souls’ Day is connected with All Saints’ Day, which is observed on the day before, where people take the time to decorate the graves of deceased loved ones and light candles in their memory.

All Souls’ Day in Mexico is a national holiday called Día de los Muertos (Day of the Dead). Many people believe that the spirits of the dead return to enjoy a visit to their friends and relatives on this day. Long before sunrise, people stream into the cemeteries laden with candles, flowers and food that is often shaped and decorated to resemble the symbols of death. Children eat tiny chocolate hearse, sugar funeral wreaths, and candy skulls and coffins. But the atmosphere is festive. In the United States Día de los Muertos is celebrated in areas such as Los Angeles where there is a large Latin American population.

The Day of the Dead is a popular time to see performances of the Ancient Spanish drama, Don Juan Tenorio, about a reckless lover who kills the father of a woman he tried to seduce and then erects the statue of his victim. According to this fictitious play, the statue comes alive and drags Don Juan to hell for account of his crimes.

In Italy Il Giorno dei Morti begins at dawn with a solemn Requiem for the dead. Church bells toll and people decorate the graves of deceased family members with flowers and candles. But this day is not an entirely solemn occasion. In Sicily the children who pray for the souls of the departed leave their shoes outside doors and windows. These shoes are then filled with gifts. In Rome some young people may announce their engagements on All Souls’ Day. The man sends the engagement ring to his fiancé in a small white box. It is then packed in an oval container filled with fave dei morti (beans of the dead), a type of cookie.

... All Souls’ Day is not a nationwide public holiday but is observed in some Christian churches in countries such as Australia, Canada, the United Kingdom and the United States.


All Souls’ Day was first instituted at the monastery in Cluny in 993 CE and quickly spread throughout the Christian world. People held festivals for the dead long before Christianity. It was Saint Odilo, the abbot of Cluny in France, who in the 10th century, proposed that the day after All Saints’ Day be set aside to honor the departed, particularly those whose souls were still in purgatory. Today the souls of the faithful departed are commemorated. Although All Souls’ Day is observed informally by some Protestants, it is primarily a Roman Catholic, Anglican and Orthodox holy day.


The skull, which is the symbol of death, is used for All Souls’ Day in many cultures. For example, candy in form of a sugar skull, which can also made with chocolate, are made for the day. In Sicily, crunchy, clove-scented cookies called "bones of the dead" are made for All Soul's Day...


   Happy Birthday today to   Russ Stephenson ('57) of MD AND   Colin Faison ('58) of VA!

   Happy Birthday tomorrow to   John Clark ('57) of VA!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

04 -   Mike Jeffers ('61) of VA;

05 -   Patsy Blackard Hallett ('65) of VA AND     My Son of Other Parents, Joe Mansfield (Stanton College Prep School, FL - 2002) of NC AND My Grandson,   Tom Harty of TX;

06 - Marion Timberlake Gitchel ('57)
AND Maria Velma Vidales Scott ('57) AND       Pam Smith Arnold ('65) of VA;

07 -     Pam Larmer Traugott ('62) of VA;

08 - Lawson (Buddy) Sparrow ('53) of VA AND Woody Hudson ('57) AND     Joe Madagan ('57) of FL AND David McCoy ('67) of VA;

09 - Hilton Henderson ('57) of NV and FL AND My Grandson (by My Children of Other Parents),     Jacob Mansfield of NC!

    Many Happy Returns, One and All!


November 2, 1936 - Italian dictator Benito Mussolini proclaimed the Rome-Berlin Axis, establishing the alliance of the Axis Powers.

November 2, 1939 - Adolf Hitler's Minister of Propaganda, Josef Goebbels, visited Lodz, Poland.

November 2, 1940 - First day of Battle of Elaia–Kalamas between the Greeks and the Italians.


Friday, November 2, 1962 - Political commentator and pundit David Brock was born in Washington, D.C..

Friday, November 2, 1962 - Soprano Mireille Delunsch was born in Mulhouse, France.

Friday, November 2, 1962 - Football player Derek Mountfield was born in Liverpool, England.


1. NADA.


1.  NADA.


      From  Wayne Stokes ('65) of VA - 11/01/12, 9:25 PM:  

On 10-17-2012 at 12:48 PM, R. Wayne III entered this world at Mary Immaculate Hospital!! My son Robert and his wife Kelly added a second child to their family and gave their three year old daughter    April Ann Stokes--my granddaughter--a brother: Robert Wayne Stokes III, who will be addressed as Trey (number three). The branch of the Stokes family tree upon which I set will continue well into the future and be the namesake of both my son and me.
Am I excited? Absolutely!! Now, at my young number of years I now have an even balance of grandchildren--2 ladies and 2 gentlemen!! OK the years thing is a stretch, but not the number of grandchildren.
Proud Grandfather (Pop)! Has anyone found where the years went??

   WOWZERS! CONGRATULATIONS, Wayne Honey! That's fabulous news! I'm not sure why you waited over two weeks to let us know, but I shall forego beating you with a big stick for a myriad of reasons - not the least of which is that you're a Sweetie-Pie!

   The plight of those missing years is still a total mystery!

   From Jack Nelson ('54) of Northern VA - 10/31/12 - "NNHS Class of '54 Health Trends":

Statin drugs are used by doctors today as the norm for lowering cholesterol.  However, the side effects are tremendous.  Attached are just a few facts that may be of interest.

Yours in health,

Alvin & Jean Mizelle
"Health Educators"
International Wellness Consultants


   Thanks so much, Jack - and Alvin and Jean!

     From Me ('65) of NC - 11/01/12:

  So true!  

From - 10/29/12 - "Need-Based Goals":

Are Your Goals Too Needy?

By  L. Andrew Morgan

Does "Need" have a place in personal goal-setting?

Meet Beth Ann...

Beth Ann looks in the mirror and does not like what she sees. "I am so fat." She says. She feels angry and hopeless. In that moment she thinks that she cannot continue like this and decides that she has to do something.

She decides in desperation that she must lose 45 pounds as quickly as possible and with tears in her eyes she searches the internet for a new way to reach an old goal.

Meet Todd...

Todd goes to the ATM to withdraw money for lunch and discovers that he only has $119.34. He has 10 days before his next paycheck and suddenly realizes that two days ago he wrote a check to the utility company and another to his daughter's school that will overdraw the account.

In that moment he decides that he cannot continue to live like this and vows that he will become financially independent.

What do Beth Ann and Todd have in common? They are both setting potentially life changing goals while in an emotional state of need.

We all do it from time to time. You have a bad day at work and while in a state of frustration on the drive home you decide that you really need to be your own boss so you start looking for business opportunities. A friend says something that you don't like and you decide that you need new friends so you set a goal of getting out more and expanding your social circle.

In most cases the emotion passes, but there are times when we make decisions that last beyond the moment and set goals to change our life based on the perceived lack we are experiencing.

You may be thinking "But the best time to set a goal is when you are sick and tired of being sick and tired."

I don't totally disagree with you. When you hit what feels like the bottom, it is better to decide to pick yourself up than it is to just wallow in despair, but is this really the best time to set life changing goals?

Consider this...

"Need" is a subjective state-of-mind that when satisfied most often temporarily improves the conditions in a person's life, but not necessarily the person.

The real progress happens when you realize that it is not about what you attain or obtain, it's about who you become in the process.

Let me share with you the three challenges to setting need based goals, why they seldom work, and a more effective way to set big goals.

Challenge #1: Being taken advantaged of...

When you are in a heightened state of need you typically look for immediate results. You want a quick fix to reverse the results of what you've been routinely doing for a while. The two biggest examples of this would be:

• Quick-weight-loss diet programs
• Get-rich-schemes

Both are multi-billion dollar industries built solely on the collective desires of people who want immediate results at all cost. Not all are bad, but because there are so many it makes it hard to find real solutions to the challenges you may be facing. And the more desperate you are the more open you are to false promises and empty offers.

Challenge #2: Ineffectiveness

Highly-emotional need based goals/intentions typically don't work over time.

When you focus on the apparent need (the symptom) and not the real problem (the cause) it's just a matter of time before the real problem produces another symptom. In some cases it produces a second symptom that's worse than the first. It is like mowing dandelions. The lawn may look neat and even at first, but in the process you've spread the seeds and left the root.

Challenge #3: High Stress

Need based goals tend to be the most stressful because they are often based on something we are resisting in our life.

I've learned that whenever I have more work than I can do in one day to simply accept the fact that I have a heavy work load and figure out a way to get it done. At one point I would resist this reality by saying things like, "I can't believe I have so much to do," and "I'll never get all of this done." Thoughts like these would always lead to high stress and low productivity.

A Better Way

Here are five easy steps that will help you to set your goals and intentions based on personal growth and not personal need. When faced with a problem that you want to establish a goal to eliminate, do the following:

1. Accept the situation for what it is
Your current situation is simply the place that you have arrived as a result of what you have been doing in the recent or distant past. You can't change the past so don't dwell on regrets. When you stop resisting your current situation by simply saying that you accept what is, you become present. Your focus is not on a memory that you can't change or on worrying about what could happen. You are in the moment and in the moment you have the power to move in the direction of your choosing.

When you accept the situations in your life without judging them as good or bad the stress literally melts away and you are clear to find the best way to reach your objective.

2. Look at the big picture
Your life is bigger than what just happened. Don't make it small. Count your blessings. Focus on the positive. Look at your entire life and not a just one narrow aspect of it.

Most of the negative feelings that we experience come from a preoccupation with ourselves. Get outside of yourself. Think about the needs of other people and how you can make a difference in their lives using the gifts that you have.

Goals that focus on the needs of others have the power to attract people, organizations, and resources to get them done.

3. Look for the core problem or opportunity.
Ask yourself:
•"Is this a recurring problem?"
•"Where is this coming from?"
•"What's feeding this?"

4. Set a lifestyle goal to address the core problem.
• What skill, talent, or character trait do I need to develop to overcome this challenge?
• Who do I need to become in order to maintain the results I want to produce?

5. Set daily action goals to address the immediate need.
• What steps do I need to take today to begin my transformation?
• Who can I call?
• What can I learn to help me improve in this area?
• What routine or habit do I need to develop to reach and maintain my goal?

Remember, in the end it's the person that you become not the things that you get or the goals that you reach that will have the most lasting impression on your life.
Are your current goals transforming you into a stronger, wiser, and more enlightened person or are they just getting you what you need?

About the Author:

L. Andrew Morgan is known as The Goals Coach by coaching clients, seminar participants, and more than 230,000 people around the world who enjoy his success messages via Twitter. He is the author of "About Goals: The Daily Goals Tool Kit", and "About Goals: 101+ Quick Tips to Reach Your Goals". In addition, he has developed tools such as the "About Goals: Life-Motion Study" and "The About Goals Daily Journal", all designed to help achievers find clarity and focus to reach their objectives faster.He currently lives on the East coast in Silver Spring, Maryland, and is the President of Break Out! Seminars and the founder of

BONUS CROCHET PATTERNS: - Andrea's 90-Minute Scarf - "Stop searching for that quick and easy crochet pattern because you just found it! This 90-Minute Scarf can be made in well, 90 minutes. Work two strands of coordinating colors together as one and it'll get done twice as fast." -
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BONUS RECIPES: - Hamburger Noodle Casserole - "Make your hamburger into a casserole. Hamburger Noodle Casserole is a great way to bring the flavors between the bun and put them in a delicious easy to prepare dish. Made with your favorite cheese, you'll love this easy casserole recipe." - All Day German Beef Stew - "Loaded with veggies and delicious spices, this All Day German Beef Stew is just what you want to eat after a busy day. As much as we love the flavor of this hearty stew, what we love even more is how easy it is to prepare. This is one of those all-day slow cooker recipes that you can make in the morning and enjoy for dinner when you get home. If you're looking for effortless beef stew recipes this season, try out this great slow cooker sensation." - Ashton's Pumpkin Poke Cake - "Jello poke cake recipes are more exciting than regular cakes. You poke holes on the top and then pour a pudding mixture over it, so it seeps into the holes. This Pumpkin Poke Cake is a spin on Jello poke cakes. Instead of pudding, sweetened condensed milk is poured into the holy cake, which is made from yellow cake mix and pumpkin puree. As if that wasn't good enough, the cake is topped with Cool Whip, Heath bits, and caramel. It really is a perfect fall treat."

      From Wayne Stokes ('65) of VA - 10/10/12, 11:05 AM - "Priceless Rare Photos (#25 in a Series of 25)":
  Some more memories.

Some of these photos will blow you away.

A Baby Boomer's Time Machine

   MORE WOWZERS! Thanks, Wayne Honey! These have been a pure delight!  

  From Norris Perry (Warwick HS - '59) of VA - 10/22/12, 10:36 AM - "Morning Awwwww (#7 in a Series of 22)":  


     AWWWWW! Thanks, Norris Sweetie!  

When I said my ears were
cold I had no idea you'd
take it so seriously.


From - 11/01/12:

Two guys met in the middle of the desert. One was carrying a car door, the other an umbrella.

The one with the car door said to the guy with the umbrella, "Why are you carrying that umbrella around? It isn't going to rain in the desert."

To which the guy with the umbrella replied, "Yeah, but it keeps me out of the sun! By the way, why are you carrying around that car door, you don’t even have a car to go with it?”

The guy with the car door said, "Yeah, well at least if I get too hot from the sun, I can just roll down the window!" 

1. Thursday, December 6, 2012 - The NNHS Class of 1955 holds Lunch Bunch gatherings on the first Thursday of every month at Steve & John's Steak House on Jefferson Avenue just above Denbigh Boulevard in Newport News at 11:00 AM. The luncheon is not limited to just the Class of '55; if you have friends in that year, go visit with them.

3. Wednesday, December 12, 2012 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 10/30/12

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                                 Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309


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Ein deutsches Requiem (A German Requiem)

- Johannes Brahms, 1865-8
(7 May 1833 - 3 Apr 1897)

III. Herr, lehre doch mich

Herr, lehre doch mich,
daß ein Ende mit mir haben muß.
und mein Leben ein Ziel hat,
und ich davon muß.
Siehe, meine Tage sind
einer Hand breit vor Dir,
und mein Leben ist wie nichts vor Dir.

Ach wie gar nichts sind alle Menschen,
die doch so sicher leben.
Sie gehen daher wie ein Schemen
und machen ihnen viel vergebliche Unruhe;
sie sammeln und wissen nicht,
wer es kriegen wird.
Nun Herr, wes soll ich mich trösten?

Ich hoffe auf Dich.

(Psalm 39, 5-8)

Der Gerechten Seelen sind in Gottes Hand
und keine Qual rühret sie an.

(Weisheit Salomos 3, 1)

III. Lord, make me to know mine end

Lord, make me to know mine end,
and the measure of my days,
what it is:
that I may know how frail I am.
Behold, thou hast made my days
as an handbreadth;
and mine age is as nothing before thee....

Surely every man walketh
in a vain shew:
surely they are disquieted in vain:
he heapeth up riches,
and knoweth not
who shall gather them.
And now, Lord, what wait I for?

my hope is in thee.

(Psalm 39:4-7)

But the souls of the righteous are in the hand of God,
and there shall no torment touch them.

(Wisdom of Solomon 3:1)


The Third Movement of Johannes Brahms' "A German Requiem", "Herr, Lehre Doch Mich",
midi courtesy of ??? - 06/06/02

German Lyrics courtesy of - 01/14/07

English lyrics courtesy of - 01/14/07

Image of William Bouguereau's Painting, "All Souls Day", courtesy of - 11/01/07

Gold Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 11/01/07

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Air Force Seal clip art courtesy of - 07/07/06

Stanton College Prep School's logo courtesy of - 08/01/10

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!!

Animated Cheering Smiley clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 08/18/05 (re-saved 02/27/09)
Thanks, Al!

Animated Laughing Cat courtesy of Joyce Lawrence Cahoon of VA - 07/29/08
Thanks, Joyce!

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