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06/12/17 - NNHS Newsletter - Rose Garden

“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature
is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming
of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead
of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today.”

- Dale Carnegie
(24 Nov 1888 - 01 Nov 1955)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,   

   It's true.....

BONUS - - Rose Garden - Lynn Anderson, 1973


"(I Never Promised You A) Rose Garden" was the title of a song written by Joe South, that is best known as recorded by country singer Lynn Anderson. Her late 1970 release topped the U.S. country chart, reached number three on the U.S. Billboard Hot 100 pop chart and remained the biggest selling recording by a female country artist until 1997.[citation needed]

... In the song, initially recorded by South himself, the narrator explains to his/her lover that though their relationship is not perfect, they should be grateful for the good and accept the bad along with it (as the chorus of the song repeats, "I beg your pardon; I never promised you a rose garden").


   Happy Birthday today to Cynthia Clontz Mears ('57)!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

14 - The United States Army - 1775 AND   the late Rosalee Will Jecmenek ('65) (d. 20 July 2013) AND Cindy _____ Konstant of VA (Wife of  George Konstant - '65 of VA) AND   Linda McKenna Sivilich of PA AND    My Grandson, Buckley Harty of CA;

16 - Jane Hoffman ('57) AND  Kay Walker Gray ('57) of VA AND    Nancy Dearing Berry ('62) of TX;

17 - Dino Vretos ('57) AND Roberta Hilsdon ('70) of GA;  

18 - The late Mimi Weger Green ('40) (deceased 15 Mar 2010) AND  Tim Whitt ('66) of VA AND  Mike Leonard ('68) of VA AND    the late Mark Wilson ('68) (deceased 04/19/11) AND Kathy McDaniel Adams ('71);

19 - Jill Douglas Schumacher ('57) AND Doris Landon Lewis ('57)!   

   Many Happy Returns to You All!


June 12, 1929 - Anne Frank was born in Germany. She wrote in her diary about growing up in occupied Amsterdam during World War II. She died in the Bergen-Belsen concentration camp in March 1945.

June 12, 1940 - 13,000 (some sources say 54,000 ?!?) British and French troops surrendered to Major General Erwin Rommel at Saint-Valery-en-Caux, on the northern Channel border.

June 12, 1942 - Anne Frank received a diary for her thirteenth birthday and made her first entry. The diary documented her experiences hiding during the German occupation of the Netherlands during World War II.

June 12, 1943 - Germany liquidated the Jewish Ghetto in Berezhany, western Ukraine. 1,180 Jews were led to the city's old Jewish graveyard and shot.

June 12, 1987 - Cold War: At the Brandenburg Gate U.S. President Ronald Reagan publicly challenged Mikhail Gorbachev to tear down the Berlin Wall.


Sunday, June 12, 1966 - The Newport News High School Class of 1966 was graduated.
Courtesy of Chip Clark ('65) of  Northern VA - 06/05/02 and 11/07/05
Thanks, Chip!


Monday, June 12, 1967 - The United States Supreme Court in Loving v. Virginia declared all U.S. state laws which prohibit interracial marriage to be unconstitutional.

Monday, June 12, 1967 - Actress Frances O'Connor was born Frances Ann O'Connor in Wantage, Oxfordshire, England.

Faith and hope will open your eyes to the happiness that is placed before you.

- Dieter F. Uchtdorf
 (b. 06 Nov 1940)

 From My Niece, Shari, of VA - 06/09/17 - "June is Narcissistic Awareness Month":

Please pass on to those who need this information desperately in their life. Many children of a parent with npd will select a spouse with the same traits, in order to get the validation they never got and will be further traumatized. Knowledge can stop that cycle of abuse. There are many videos to help educate and rise above. H.G. Tutor is a very good author, as is Shahida Arabi. Richard Gannon is a fave for me with videos, but I did not include any of his, as his language may be offensive to some. He takes a serious subject and at times puts a humorous spin and makes me smile.  
Yes 100 percent! Best advice ever!!
So Spot On.
Why the narcissist divides.

One last one. I have not experienced the bank acct. issue, but know others that have. : (
The rest, oh yes. Know this: when they lose a scapegoat (after the major smear campaign exhausts) they will have to find another one to project their depravity on. Beware: it could be you next.

Repetitive Narcissistic Exploitation

Exploitation is the narcissist’s middle name. They are always using others, especially spouses, ex-spouses, children and other family members to get
their needs met, not yours. Narcissists don’t care, are not interested and are closed off to your needs. They are over-entitled and have no hesitation about making demands from you constantly. This puts their spouses and children in continual emergency red button mode. Every moment is a fire drill. We become emotionally depleted and in some cases physically ill. Take care of yourself. Set boundaries with the narcissist and be consistent. He or she will step over these lines, cajole you into letting them have their way, intimidate and humiliate you. Don’t give in. Keep your emotional, psychological and physical distance (if possible) from the narcissist. Being in their presence is poisoning to you emotionally and psychologically. If you must be in touch with them, learn to detach from them by not over-reacting to their lies and the dramas that follow if they don’t get what they want. Let them put up a fuss like a baby in a high chair throwing his peas all over the floor. Don’t let their tantrums and threats overrun you. Stay steady through a practice of stillness, relaxation techniques, gentle yoga and meditation.

I have seen narcissists repeat their exploitive schemes. They are counting on wearing you down, getting you off center, making you lose your temper, on giving in. You can outlast the narcissist by remaining centered and grounded in your own values and destiny and having a support system. You have a separate life to which you are entitled. Give them no ground, no screams or snarling, no smirk, and when appropriate no contact. Their goal is to engage and enrage and get you to lose control of yourself; this spells weakness to them and the right time to pounce. You can continue to develop mastery over yourself. Work at your physical, mental and psychological health each day—it is a priority especially in counterbalancing the narcissist’s repeated exploitive attempts.

Give yourself credit for how you are handling this very difficult and at times impossible person. Take refuge within yourself, among your friends, in the solitude and beauty of nature and through your spiritual practice in the way that you define it.

- Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.


Understanding & Dealing with Manipulative People - Dr. George Simon

Psychopaths, like most predators, seek power and control. They want to dominate the people in their life emotionally, and physically. They do this by exploiting vulnerabilities. This is why they love-bomb you with attention and flattery in the beginning of the relationship—because no matter how strong or confident you are, being in “love” makes you vulnerable by default. Psychopaths don’t need physical aggression to control you (although sometimes they do). Instead, relationships provide them with the perfect opportunity to consume you by manufacturing the illusion of love. This is why it’s so damaging when bystanders say: “Well, why didn’t you just leave?” You never entered a relationship with the psychopath expecting to be abused, belittled, and criticized—first, you were tricked into falling in love, which is the strongest human bond in the world. Psychopaths know this.

So how do psychopaths maintain such a powerful bond over their targets? One of their favorite methods is through triangulation. When I mention this term, survivors usually equate it with the next target, but that is not always the case. Psychopaths use triangulation on a regular basis to seem in “high-demand”, and to keep you obsessed with them at all times. This can occur with anyone:

1. Your family
2. Their family
3. Your friends
4. Their friends
5. Ex-partners
6. Partners-to-be
7. Complete strangers

The psychopath’s ability to groom others is unmatched. They feel an intense euphoria when they turn people against each other, especially when it’s over a competition for them. Psychopaths will manufacture situations to make you jealous and question their fidelity. In a normal relationship, people go out of their way to prove that they are trustworthy—but the psychopath does exactly the opposite. They are constantly suggesting that they might be pursuing other options, or spending time with other people, so that you can never settle down into a feeling of peace. And they will always deny this, calling you crazy for bringing it up.

Once You Go NO CONTACT you can grow and thrive.

   WOW. Thank you so much for this valuable information, Shari!

   From Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA -  06/11/16:

   INDEED! Thank you, Sarah Sugah!

  From Catherine Slusser Hudson ('64) of VA - 06/11/16:

  TOTALLY UNDERSTOOD! Thanks, Catherine!

Just because you're beautiful and perfect, it's made you conceited.

- William Goldman, The Princess Bride
 (b. 12 Aug 1931)

 From My Niece, Shari, of VA - 05/30/17 - "Goodies (#12 in a Series of 20)":

  Thank you, Shari!

BONUS ROSE GARDEN CROCHET PATTERNS: - Penny Davis' Dedri's Rose Garden Square - Granny Rose Afghan Square - "I never promised you a rose garden but I did promise you a rose crochet-a-long. Tee, hee. :-)" - Rose Garden Granny Afghan - "Take some time to stop and smell the roses with a Rose Garden Granny Afghan. This crochet afghan pattern requires you to create squares and roses that are ultimately joined together. Experienced crocheters will love this cool pattern."


From - 06/11/17:

My doctor friend moved his family to a small town in Montana. An Italian American raised in Philadelphia, he wanted his kids to enjoy clean the benefits of air and the outdoors.

The locals were thrilled to have a doctor of their own, and were always inviting him and his family over for dinner. During one visit, one of his daughters told a rancher’s daughter, "We’re Italian."

Somewhat confused, the little girl replied, "We’re Ranch."

1. Friday and Saturday, June 23 and 24, 2017 - The NNHS Class of 1962 will hold their 55-Year Reunion at Doubletree Hotel, 50 Kingsmill Road, Williamsburg, VA. SEE: and CONTACT:

2. Wednesday, July 12, 2017 - The NNHS Class of June 1942 meets at noon on the second Wednesday of every other month for a Dutch treat lunch at the James River Country Club, 1500 Country Club Road. PLEASE JOIN THEM. Give or take a few years makes no difference. Good conversation, food and atmosphere. For details, call Jennings Bryan at 803-7701 for reservations.

3. Friday and Saturday, September 22 and 23, 2017 - The NNHS Class of 1967 will hold their 50-Year Reunion. SEE:

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 06/10/17

BLOG: - updated 03/13/11

Y'all take good care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER! 
We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                          Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
7020 Lure Court
Fayetteville, NC 28311-9309

"Never underestimate
the power of a drop
in the bucket."


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(I Never Promised You a) Rose Garden

Words and Music by Joe South (b. 28 Feb 1940)

Performed by Lynn Anderson (b. 26 Sept 1946), 1970

I beg your pardon,
I never promised you a rose garden.
Along with the sunshine,
There's gotta be a little rain sometimes.
When you take, you gotta give, so live and let live,
Or let go.
I beg your pardon,
I never promised you a rose garden.

I could promise you things like big diamond rings,
But you don't find roses growin' on stalks of clover.
So you better think it over.
Well, if sweet-talkin' you could make it come true,
I would give you the world right now on a silver platter,
But what would it matter?
So smile for a while and let's be jolly:
Love shouldn't be so melancholy.
Come along and share the good times while we can.

I beg your pardon,
I never promised you a rose garden.
Along with the sunshine,
There's gotta be a little rain sometimes.

Instrumental break.

I beg your pardon,
I never promised you a rose garden.

I could sing you a tune or promise you the moon,
But if that's what it takes to hold you,
I'd just as soon let you go, but there's one thing I want you to know.
You better look before you leap, still waters run deep,
And there won't always be someone there to pull you out,
And you know what I'm talkin' about.
So smile for a while and let's be jolly:
Love shouldn't be so melancholy.
Come along and share the good times while we can.

I beg your pardon,
I never promised you a rose garden.
Along with the sunshine,
There's gotta be a little rain sometimes.

"Rose Garden" midi courtesy of - 06/14/10 (sic)

"Rose Garden" lyrics courtesy of - 06/14/10 (sic)

Image of Rose Garden courtesy of - 06/14/10 (sic)

Red Roses Divider Line clip art courtesy of - well, I cannot find that information now, but it's been in my files since 02/01/05

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06 (still missing...)
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Animated Army Flag clip art courtesy of - 06/18/03 
Graduation clip art courtesy of - 07/20/06

Animated Wildly Laughing Dog courtesy of Eva Ellis Madagan ('61) of FL - 11/24/07
Thanks, Eva!

Animated Thumbs Up Smiley courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 10/19/06
Thanks, Al!

Jeffrey Holman's Image "A Drop in the Bucket" courtesy of - 05/23/16

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