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04/15/09 - NNHS Newsletter -
One Way or Another

“If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity
it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and when it comes, hold your head high,
look it squarely in eye and say, 'I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.'”

- Ann Landers (Esther "Eppie" Pauline Friedman Lederer)
(04 July 1918 - 22 June 2002)

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,   

   Your income taxes must be filed tonight by midnight.  I do hope you have them finished or at least filed for an extension, because one way or another.....

BONUS - - One Way or Another - Blondie, 1979


  From Judy Phillips Allen ('66) of VA - 04/15/09, 3:35 PM - "Update on    Jerry (Allen - '65 - of VA) and   Monty (Phillips - '62 - of VA) --for all my praying friends and family":
First, the brief one----Jerry is doing well.  He just has back and knee pain to complain about, but he doesn't complain much.  He does still need prayer, though.  There is always the potential of attacks with BP and cholesterol issues. He is with his Russian trainer, Anna, right now.  She is taking good care of him.

Monty has been back and forth among three doctors for weeks now.  He has had two liver biopsies cancelled last minute while on the table.  Last week, he had an endoscopy and tissue samples taken which did show cancer cells.  Last Friday, Dr. Gessner, who did the endoscopy, called Monty to come in that afternoon.  Jerry and I went with him. That is when we found out that cancer is definitely involved.  Stomach contents were not flowing normally into the small intestine due to the ulcer at the duodenum causing damage and swelling.  Dr. G put him on a diet of Ensure or Boost Plus which he started as soon as he got home Friday.  Jerry and I took him to Wal-Mart to stock up.  He has felt so much better and more energetic since starting the Ensure/Boost diet.

We saw Dr. Mattern (oncologist) on Monday to discuss the course of action. We saw Dr. Cantwell (Surgeon) on Tuesday and he will have surgery on Monday, April 20th to remove the ulcerated area and construct a new exit for stomach contents into the small intestine.  His gall bladder will be removed as well as work on the bile duct to finally get rid of that tube from his stomach and the bag he has had to carry around since the initial surgery (Feb. 27) to stop that huge ulcer bleed.  The surgeon will also put in a port to get him prepared for chemo which will start as soon as he recovers from the surgery. He has a long haul ahead and we will appreciate all continued prayers.  The cancer is definitely on the head of the pancreas and part of the stomach, but the big question and fear is that is has spread to the liver.  We are hoping and praying that the cancer has NOT affected the liver so that he will have a better chance of recovery.  That is pretty much it for now.  I will let you know next week how things are going.
Thank you all so much!  God Bless!

   Sigh. Thank you so much, Dearest Judy! This is not the report we would have wanted for Monty - and hardly the birthday present he deserves - but we appreciate your letting us know. Give your darling husband and brother both hugs and kisses for us, and we'll keep the prayers going! 


   Happy Birthday today to        George Helliesen ('61) of MI!

   Happy Birthday this week to:

17 - David Jones ('57);

18 -   Monty Phillips ('62) of VA AND   Bill Wolfley ('70) of VA;

21 -   Betsy Turner Bateman ('70) of VA AND         My #2 Son, Brent Harty (Hillsboro HS, IL - '90) of TX (currently training again in GA);

22 - Peggy Lovic Hooper-McLain ('57)!

   Many Happy Returns to You All!


   Hit #83,500 was made sometime on Tuesday, April 14, 2009 while I was away from the computer. 

    From Mickey Marcella ('54) of VA - 04/14/09:

Thank you for your note showing that Lacey (Milburn - of VA) sent you a memo too about the Boys and Girls Club upcoming event.  We really appreciate your help, Carol. 

Mickey Marcella

   It was my pleasure, Mickey! We wish you great success!

       From George Helliesen ('61) of MI - 04/14/09 - "Age Progression Images":

Miss Typhoon,

Thought you may be interested in what the old man looks like approaching his 66th birthday.   I hope you receive the picture.

Also we are trying to send a picture from eons ago when the only bathtub I had was a galvanized tub in my grandfather's back yard in Mathews County.

In the near future, I hope to send you a list of the friends from NNHS that I grew up with in Christopher Shores.

Hope you are having a good April 14.  Talk to you later.


George Helliesen

   AWWW - Thank you so much for these super images, George! That's a beautiful portrait study of you and your pretty puppy dog! You are "lookin' good, fer shure"!

   And if there's anyone out there who doesn't get a big kick of the first picture, I think we all need to know why so we can help!

    From Eric Huffstutler (Bethel HS - '75) of VA - 04/14/09 - "Movies and Books":


I belong to a few movie based forums and some frequented by those in the industry.  From time to time the discussion about movie styles and the age groups watching them comes up and sometimes it treads on toes of the younger crowds because "the truth hurts".

What we find is something twofold.  One factor is the current movie going groups of people named Generation X and Millennials.  They grew up in the computer age and knew nothing more than computer and video games, cable television, VHS and DVDs, and color movies.  Aggressiveness and violence seem to be key in what they watch and play.  Anything made in black and white is considered boring and if they have to think then forget it.  Their attention span won't allow it.  They want things spelled out for them with in-your-face action and gore.  Unless they were coaxed by parents and shared classic movie experiences together then they will never appreciate the "classics".  But too many have had the cushy life, given whatever they wanted hand over fist, become overweight video playing couch potatoes and left to run unsupervised too often, so what do you get?  Not in our day, for sure.  You went outside to play, given the switch or paddle, and got presents only on birthdays and Christmas. ADD wasn't even heard of.   But that's another topic.

The other factor is the fact that I believe Hollywood has run out of ideas.  Look at all of the remakes coming out lately.  The level of Special Effects (FX) has reached a peak where they too now are looking fake again rather than real.  Possibly because we have become somewhat jaded and attuned to it and a ceiling has been reached long ago?   The envelope has been pushed to its max and what else is left but the same old same old leaving quality works in the dust.  Even so called Academy Award winners are questionable and probably only win by default in some respects because there just isn't much to choose from in the first place.  Of course that is my opinion and your mileage may vary :-)

Eric Huffstutler

   You've touched on several social issues here, Eric, and given us all food for thought! Thanks so much!!

    From Joe Madagan ('57) of FL - 04/14/09 - "Stormy Weather":

Hi, Carol:

Sorry to hear you are not well. This is another sad bit of news.

   Thanks, Joe! I'm sure I was just being a wienie, as usual, but I appreciate your concern!


...The power was just restored here in Wesley Chapel.

We have had quite a stormy day with tornado warnings this morning and watches projected until this evening.

Not sure why power went off as we have underground utilities in my area, except lightning must have hit a transformer on the system from Tampa.

...We are under a tornado watch, after enduring a tornado warning this morning; this photo provides a better description of that storm. This is Wesley Chapel, Florida.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Wesley Chapel, Florida

Hunkered down,

   YOWZERONI!!! What a chilling image this is, Joe! I certainly hope you and yours remained safe and unharmed through that ordeal, Adonis!

        From Sydney Dearing ('56) of TN - 04/14/09 - "Dale Parsons Sr. photo":

I loved the picture of      Dale Parsons, Sr. (June 1948 - of VA) sent in by his daughter Judy.  It reminded me of a picture I have of my dad from about 1924 which I had to dig out of a stack of old photos.  I have been trying to scan all of my old photos into my computer before they all fade away but it is a daunting task because my parents,   Sydney Dearing, Sr. (HHS 1936) and    Lena Mae Scruggs Dearing (NNHS 1936) were prolific photographers as were his parents.  I thank the good Lord that they left me all of these wonderful treasures.  To keep them safe and protect them from deteriorating I keep them all tucked away in a dark safe except when I show them off or when I am copying them.  I would only wish that they had been more diligent in labeling their pictures with names and dates.  I would urge everyone to do that on their current photos so our children and grandchildren will not someday say, "I wish I knew who this is in this picture" or "Gee, I wonder when that was taken."
Go Blue & Gold

   AMEN, Sydney! As a former Creative Memories Consultant, though, I feel duty bound to remind you all to use only a soft-lead acid-free photo labeling pencil when you perform this necessary task so that you don't cause irreparable harm in the process:

  From Jay Styles ('68) of VA - 04/14/09 - "a wonderful story!":


I don't know if you have seen/heard this before, but if not, please listen.  Goes back to Paul Potts on the same show.

Jay - Susan Boyle - Singer - Britain's Got Talent 2009

   Jay Sweetie, I saw this incredible video just moments before you sent it to me - and you were the first of many to do so! Thank you so very much!

From - 04/13/09 - "Stress Reduction":

Does Your Cup Runneth Over? - By Paul Chek

Are you always in a hurry? Is money a recurring problem in your life? Are you working to live instead of living to work? Do you have a relationship or two adding stresses to your life? How are your eating habits? Do you have a history of dieting, skipping meals, or living off of packaged or pre-prepared foods? How does your body feel? Do you suffer from nagging low back, neck, or shoulder pains? Are you taking medication for one or more ailments?

Each "yes" response to the questions above equals one stream of stress into your "cup of life." When you consider that the body summates stresses, or adds them up to create a total physiological level of stress at any given time, it becomes clear that the more stresses you have, the closer your "cup" is to "running over"! The less streams of stress we have at any given time, the more balance or homeostasis we have, leaving us adequate capacity to compensate for the occasional stressor that life occasionally throws our way. If your cup is getting full and your body is not capable of tolerating much more, you must be careful about how much exercise you do and what type and intensity you use, or you will certainly "spill over." Remember, exercise is stress as far as the body is concerned!

If your cup is getting full, you may be experiencing some or all of the following symptoms:

* Reduced motivation
* Reduced libido
* Constipation, diarrhea, or alternating between both
* Becoming antisocial
* Prolonged recovery time from nagging injuries
* Infection or sores in the mouth, nose, ears, toes, or digestive tract (ulcers)
* Experiencing a plateau in exercise performance and taking longer than normal to warm-up for a training session

And if you are experiencing these symptoms, take them as a warning that your body is not likely to respond well to additional stress from exercise.

Many of you will be committed to your exercise and see it as a form of stress reduction. While exercise certainly has many physiological and psychological benefits with regard to reducing stress, it is critical to remember that no matter how you slice it, exercise is stress to the body. The fuller your cup is, the more careful you have to be if you want to get the most from your exercise program.

To get off a training plateau, or simply get the most therapeutic and physiological benefit from your exercise program, the following tips will serve to "drain stress from your cup," reducing the physiological load on your body:

1) If you are headed for the gym and feel tired, avoid drinking coffee or stimulating drinks such as Red Bull, for example. Such drinks are neurostimulants that only serve to increase the level of cortisol in your body. Cortisol is a stress hormone and puts your body into a catabolic state, exactly the opposite of what you want when training! To get a natural boost, try "neurotonic training." To perform a neurotonic or "pick me up" workout, after completing one or two warm-up sets at progressively increasing intensity (per exercise), select a load for each exercise to be performed that would only allow you to perform a maximum of 4-6 repetitions. Once the load is selected, only perform half of the reps you could if you maxed out (2 vs. 4 for example). Allow yourself rest between sets and perform your normal number of sets or even one less than normal. This type of training will serve as a natural "tonic" for your nervous system, and provided you have not consumed anything sweet before training, you will not only feel better than you ever could drinking coffee or the likes, you will be anabolic -- which means you are creating an environment that favors building your body, not breaking it down!

2) If joint or muscle soreness is the problem, try cutting the number of sets you are performing for each exercise in half for one full week. Remember, your body gets stronger at rest, not while training! This method is very useful to apply every third week of your training program unless being guided by a highly trained exercise professional.

3) Take a day or two off from your training. No, you won't shrink to the size of PeeWee Herman in 48 hours! Instead of training, book a full-body massage.

4) Take a 15-30 minute power nap before training. The results can be amazing!

5) Eliminate consumption of anything higher than 60 on the glycemic index (available in many nutrition books) for a week. This will mean going without most breads, pastas, packaged cereals, and many things you are probably addicted to, including sweeteners such as table sugar or fake sweeteners (which are just junk anyway). You will most likely be shocked at how much better your energy levels are. My clients often find that many of their nagging pains are gone after making this change, indicating that they need to be tested for food allergy.

6) Drink two liters of clean bottled water every day. That doesn't include beer either!

This simple approach has helped hundreds of my clients get more out of their training programs and their lives over the years. Give it a try!

About the Author:

Paul Chek is an internationally renowned expert in the fields of holistic health and personal, professional, and spiritual mastery systems addressing all aspects of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. For over twenty-five years, Paul's unique, holistic approach to treatment and education has changed the lives of countless individuals worldwide. As a walking, talking definition of success, Paul is above all an educator, teaching and applying his methods to benefit others. He has produced more than 50 videos, 6 books, 2 e-books, and 16 advanced-level home study courses while regularly contributing to many diverse publications and websites. Paul is the founder of the C.H.E.K Institute and the P~P~S Success Mastery Center, in San Diego, California, USA.

Check out the Experts page for Paul Chek, the Official Guide to Personal Development:


    From Glenn Dye ('60) of TX - 04/10/09 - "Mother Goose Tells the Truth" (#2 in a Series of 8):

    Life is short. Break the rules. Forgive quickly.
Kiss slowly. Love truly.
Laugh uncontrollably,
and never regret anything.



    Well, CRAP!
Now I forgot what I was gonna tell ya!

      Thanks so much, Glenn! These are painfully delightful!


1. Thursday, April 23, 2009 - See Cal Ripken, Jr. at the Hampton Convention Center.  For details, see  - ALL FORMER BOYS AND GIRLS CLUB MEMBERS

2. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, April 24, 25, and 26, 2009 - The Class of 1954 will hold its 55-Year Reunion.  For details, contact Dr. Harry Simpson at 804-694-0346 or email him at - CLASS OF 1954

3. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, May 15, 16, and 17, 2009 - The Hampton High School Class of 1964 will hold its 45-Year Reunion at the Crowne Plaza Hotel. For details, see: - HAMPTON HIGH SCHOOL - CLASS OF 1964

4. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, September 4, 5 and 6 (Labor Day Weekend), 2009 - The Class of 1969 will hold its 40-Year Reunion at the Point Plaza Hotel, Newport News, VA. For details, see: and contact Jean Baker Howell at - OPEN TO ALL NNHS ALUMNI

5. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, September 18, 19, and 20, 2009 - The Warwick High School Class of 1959 will hold its 50-Year Reunion at the Marriott Newport News at City Center, Newport News, VA. For details, contact

6. Friday and Saturday, October 9 and 10, 2009 - The Class of 1964 will hold its 45-Year Reunion at the Newport News Marriott at City Center, 740 Town Center Drive, Newport News, VA 23606: For details, see: - CLASS OF 1964:

Your NNHS 64/45 Reunion Committee is pleased to announce that musical entertainment has been arranged for our Reunion.

On Friday evening, we will dance to the tunes of DJ, Susan Voss. Those of you who attended our “Turning Sixty” Party in 2006 at Spirit Events will remember Susan’s talent and energy.

On Saturday night we have engaged the band, LP & Company, headed by L.P. Butler. I could tell you how great they are, but you can see for yourself on the video at their web site:

PRAYER ROLL: - updated 04/15/09

BLOG: - updated 01/09/09

   Y'all take care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!  We'll Always Have Buckroe!

                          Love to all, Carol





Carol Buckley Harty
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One Way or Another

Written by Debbie Harry
(b. 01 July 1945)

and Nigel Harrison
(b. 24 Apr 1951)

(Blondie), 1979

One way or another I'm gonna find ya
I'm gonna getcha getcha getcha getcha
One way or another I'm gonna win ya
I'm gonna getcha getcha getcha getcha
One way or another I'm gonna see ya
I'm gonna meetcha meetcha meetcha meetcha
One day, maybe next week
I'm gonna meetcha, I'm gonna meetcha, I'll meetcha
I will drive past your house
And if the lights are all down
I'll see who's around

One way or another I'm gonna find ya
I'm gonna getcha getcha getcha getcha
One way or another I'm gonna win ya
I'll getcha, I'll getcha
One way or another I'm gonna see ya
I'm gonna meetcha meetcha meetcha meetcha
One day, maybe next week
I'm gonna meetcha, I'll meetcha

And if the lights are all out
I'll follow your bus downtown
See who's hanging out

One way or another I'm gonna lose ya
I'm gonna give you the slip, a slip of the lip or another
I'm gonna lose ya, I'm gonna trick ya
One way or another I'm gonna lose ya
I'm gonna trick ya trick ya trick ya trick ya
One way or another I'm gonna lose ya
I'm gonna give you the slip

I'll walk down the mall
Stand over by the wall
Where I can see it all
Find out who ya call
Lead you to the supermarket checkout
Some specials and rat food, get lost in the crowd

One way or another I'm gonna getcha, I'll getcha, I'll getcha getcha
getcha getcha
(Where I can see it all, find out who ya call)
One way or another I'm gonna getcha, I'll getcha, I'll getcha getcha
getcha getcha
(Where I can see it all, find out who ya call)
One way or another I'm gonna getcha, I'll getcha, I'll getcha getcha
getcha getcha
(Where I can see it all, find out who ya call)
[repeat until fade]

"One Way or Another" midi courtesy of - 04/14/09

"One Way or Another" lyrics courtesy of - 04/14/09

"Taxes" clip art courtesy of - 04/15/09

 Blue-Green Divider Line clip art courtesy of - 04/15/09

Marine Corps Seal clip art courtesy of the late Herbert Hice of MI - one of my Famous Marines who served in the South Pacific during WWII.
Thanks again, Herbie!

Animated Kissing Smiley clip art courtesy of my friend, Judy, of IL - 09/19/08
Thanks, Judy!

Animated Tiny Birthday Cake clip art courtesy of Sarah Puckett Kressaty ('65) of VA - 08/31/05
Thanks, Sarah Sugah!

Hillsboro High School's Topper (Band Version) clip art courtesy of - 06/07/08
Thanks, Mark!

Army Seal clip art courtesy of Al Farber ('64) of GA - 05/24/06
Thanks, Al!
Replaced by Norm Covert ('61) of MD - 02/09/09
Thanks, Norm!

Page Hit Counter clip art courtesy of - 03/07/06

Bethel High School's Bruin clip art courtesy of Eric Huffstutler (Bethel HS - '75) of VA - 03/22/06 (replaced 02/23/09)
Thanks, Eric!

Air Force Seal clip art courtesy of - 07/07/06

Animated Rolling on the Floor Laughing Boy courtesy of - 04/06/05

Hampton High School's Crab clip art courtesy of - 10/02/05
Replaced courtesy o
f - 02/17/09

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