03/10/06 - NNHS Newsletter - Kathy Pilgrim Clark

Phyllis Kathleen Pilgrim Clark
(7 Sep 1945 - 8 Mar 2006)

Newport News High School Class of 1963

Dear Friends and Schoolmates,   

   This morning's news is so sad I am having difficulty even grasping it.

From Dana Clark Epstein of VA - 03/09/06:


My mother died on Wednesday. We have not made any plans as of yet, just wanted to pass it on.

Dana Clark Epstein

   Dana, It was a full ten minutes after reading your note that I was able to comprehend what you were saying.  I read it and reread it, and nothing made sense.  I thought I had mislabeled the email addies.  I thought you were someone I didn't know whose 94 year old mother had died, so I searched all the indexed Anchors looking for a "Dana Clark".  I thought anything and everything but the truth, for the truth seemed so incomprehensible to me.

   Then I recalled your name as Kathy's adored daughter, and the reality - even as inconceivable as it was - began to break upon me.

   I first met Kathy 45 years ago as a member of the Typhoon Marching Band.  As she played glockenspiel, and I flute, we marched near one another, and became good friends

   In the years since she had joined us here on the website, her contributions had been many and valuable.  Calling on a vast and far-reaching expertise, she offered finely detailed explanations of many subjects that otherwise would have been lost to us.

   My last note from Kathy arrived only last Thursday - a tribute to her favorite teacher:


   I can scarcely believe I'll hear no more.

   Please accept my deepest sympathies on the passing of your mother.  She was a very fine woman, an amazing woman, and I shall miss her very much.


  From Tom Norris (Hampton HS - '73) of VA - 03/10/06, 7:44 AM - "Notice for Kathleen
Pilgrim Clark":

Carol ... a very sad day ... we lost one of our own.


   Thank you, Tom.  I know; I'm just having difficulty believing it.

  Kathleen Pilgrim Clark

HAMPTON - Kathleen Pilgrim Clark, 60, beloved mother of Dana Epstein and Christopher Clark, died Wednesday, March 8, 2006. The family will welcome friends from 4 to 6 p.m. Sunday, March 12, at Parklawn-Wood Funeral Home.

Published in the Daily Press on 3/10/2006.
Guest Book
Phyllis Kathleen Pilgrim    
Fall of 1962    
Kathleen Pilgrim Clark

HAMPTON - Kathleen 'Kathy' Pilgrim Clark, 60, passed away suddenly at her home Wednesday, March 8, 2006. A native and lifelong resident of Hampton, Kathy was a 30-year employee of the Public Works Department with the City of Hampton. She enjoyed acting and was very active in the local community theaters, currently working on a production with the Williamsburg Players. Kathy was an 'over the top' Atlanta Braves fan, attending games whenever she could. Kathy was preceded in death by her parents, Lois and Harry 'Pierre' Pilgrim. A beloved mother, sister and friend, Kathy is survived by her former husband, John B. Clark of Williamsburg; her children, Dana Epstein and her husband, Phillip, of Newport News and Christopher Clark and his wife, Virginia Leigh Major, of Charles City; companion, R.D. Richards of Franklin; brothers, Michael Pilgrim and his wife, Alethia, of Tybee Island, Ga., Perry Pilgrim and his wife, Becki, of Hampton and Patrick Pilgrim and his wife, Bridget, of Hampton; and numerous friends and co-workers. The family will welcome friends from 4 to 6 p.m. Sunday at Parklawn-Wood Funeral Home. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to a charity of choice. Cremation arrangements are under the care of Parklawn-Wood Funeral Home, 2551 N. Armistead Ave., Hampton.

Published in the Daily Press on 3/11/2006 - 3/12/2006.

Guest Book
Kathy was a dynamic person and made a lasting impression on everyone that she came in contact with. She will be greatly missed.
Janice Becouvarakis (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I worked with Kathy for years. She was a good friend and will missed. When a person like Kathy crosses a path in your life you never forget her. She was always helpful when you needed help, or always there to hear your problems or just to have a pleasant conversation with. Good bye my friend, may God be with you.
Ed Mason
Ed Mason (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
KC was my mentor and friend. She taught me so much about work and life; she made a huge difference in my life. She was always ready to share a laugh or a tear, and happy to help solve any problem. If you were blessed enough to have KC as a friend, then you were truly blessed. I will miss her very much.
Ann Copeland (Newport News, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I will miss her sharp insight and ability to analyze issues. We shared many deep conversations.
Bob Trahan (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Louis Johnson (VA ) - March 10, 2006
I have worked with Kathy on and off for over 20 years. We had a very good work relationship. She was very helpful on many occasions. One thing I will never forget about Kathy is her interest in helping her fellow workers. I saw first hand how she would help other workers fill out insurance forms and give advice to help with whatever problems they had. Kathy will be missed by all of us down at Public Works Operations.
Patrick Ray (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Kathy was passionate about her city, and her Atlanta Braves. Both are poorer for her passing. Godspeed K.C.
Kevin Gallagher (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Pete Morley (Poquoson, VA ) - March 10, 2006
My family extends our deepest sympathies to Kathy's family during this great time of grief. Kathy was a year ahead of me but impressed me as being a wonderful individual. She always had a smile and something nice to say, and will be remembered fondly. Henry (Butch) Ragland; Class of 63.
Henry (Butch) Ragland (Peyton, CO ) - March 10, 2006
Kathy will be missed by all who had the pleasure to work with her.
Rob Fowler (Lynchburg, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I have known Cathy for many years. She always took the time to help me whenever I needed it and always with a smile. She will be missed. May God be with her family.
Sharon Johnson (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I knew Kathy in high school as we were in Latin class together. She was so smart and talented, yet down to earth and fun as well. Always had a smile and friendliness toward everyone. She contributed a wealth of valuable and interesting information about the Hampton Roads area to our NNHS website. We will miss her wonderful contributions. Deepest sympathy to the family. Jean Poole Burton NNHS '64
Jean Burton (Portsmouth, RI ) - March 10, 2006
Dana & Christopher:
Sincere Condolences to you both on your mother's passing. I worked
with her both in Engineering & GIS
& admired her dedication to work,
family, & friends. She will be
greatly missed by all who knew her.
Bruce Sims (Gloucester, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I don't know what to say. Tears. Regrets. Memories that fight to stay. Friendships deep in debt.
Hard to let go. I'm sorry.
Linda May Bond Crayton
Linda May Bond Crayton (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I have good memories of KC. We had a good working relationship over the years while working for the City of Hampton. If you wanted facts and dates, Kathy was the one to go to. She was a very interesting person and a very hard worker. I will miss her.
Edward Haughton (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Nothing is harder than losing someone you love. Take strength in your memories, and have faith in tomorrow.
Jan Burgess (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Kathy, you will missed by your fellow employees. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family.
Sam Bridgman
Sam Bridgman (Hampton) - March 10, 2006
Dana, Christopher, Perry, and Pat, I'm so very sorry to learn of your loss. You'll be in Terrie's and my thoughts and prayers. I just know Kathy is driving that "Magic Bus" all over a yellow brick road with our Heavenly Father above. Bless you all.
Carl Viars (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I know that Kathy is smiling down on all who were fortunate enough to have known her. Our family sends our deepest sympathy.
Michael Hopson (Hampton, VA ) - March 10, 2006
I knew Kathy for many years while doing plays at PCT and dancing ballet with Dana. Chris, Dana, my heart felt sympathies go out to you both and may God be with you during such a time of great sorrow. Much Love!
Jeannie (Martin) Moore (Gloucester, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Dana, Chris and Perry,
I haven't seen Kathy in many years, but have thought of her often. My deepest sympathy at your loss. We had known each other for almost 50 years- since Willis Elementary School days. She made my theater years great. Al
Albert (Al) Martin III (Madison County, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Dana and Chris I am so very very sorry to hear of your mom's death. She was a very special person to me. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time. Know that I am here if you need anything.

Love, Susan and family
Susan Hunt -Maynard (Poquoson, VA ) - March 10, 2006
My Deepest Sympathy to those Kathy leaves behind. We were friends in the NNHS band and visited in each others' homes on many occasions. I loved coming to watch her perform with the PCT and her church. She was a great person and I will sure miss her notes on the NNHS web site.
Linda L. Lane (Williamsburg, VA ) - March 10, 2006
Dear Dana and Chris - I am in Wisconsin visiting with my mother, so I can't come to the visitation on Sunday. I work for the City of Hampton and have know your mother for a long. Dana, you and my daughter, Heather Hollomon, were in preschool together! Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and you family. She will be missed!
Kathann Montague
Kathann Montague (Hampton, VA ) - March 11, 2006 
I remember Kathy from high school. Always a very nice person. It is so hard to see one taken so unexpectedly with so much yet to give. My prayers and condolences are with all of the family who remains.
Margaret Tyndall (Seaford, VA ) - March 11, 2006
Kathy was a valued colleague for many years. Her contributions will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with her family.
Diane Bohlman (Hampton, VA ) - March 12, 2006
My deepest sympathy for your loss. Recently I had the privilege and honor to start working with Kathy. I found her to be very knowledgeable about city policy and a pleasure to be around. I was looking forward to getting to know her better. I will miss her.
Marilyn Nadeau (Hampton, VA ) - March 13, 2006 
I pray that God has blessed you. No more pain.
William Knox (Hampton, VA ) - March 14, 2006  
My thoughts and prayers are with all the family. KC was a great help at the city with insight and perspective that was always on point. Sad she will not be present to share her thoughts with each of us.
Jim Rattray (Alpharetta, GA ) - March 14, 2006  

   Our deepest sympathies are extended to Kathy's family, particularly Dana and Christopher, and all her
many friends.

  From Jean Poole Burton ('64) of RI - 03/10/06, 12:04 PM - "Kathy Clark...":

Dear Carol,

I am crying as I write this.  I could not believe it either.  The website joins us in joy and in sorrow.  Kathy contributed so much valuable and interesting information to all of us!  She was in my Latin classes and was so smart and yet still down to earth and fun.  I was so happy to see her join the contributors.  Thank you for giving us the opportunity to  put our arms around each other at this sad time. 

Love, Jean

   Thank you, Jean.  I think I'm just as stunned now as I was 24 hours ago when I received the news which seemed so surreal.  Kathy really was such an incredible person!  And those virtual hugs do feel comforting at a time such as this, don't they?


  From Bruce Sims ('56) of VA - 03/10/06, 12:20 PM - "My Tribute To Kathy Pilgrim Clark":


I worked closely with Kathy her entire career at the City Of Hampton, both in Engineering and GIS until my retirement last March, and she was the most dedicated to details and finding the answers needed to correctly complete assignments that I ever worked with.

She was also very dedicated to family and friends.

I also grateful that she is the one who told me about your web site which is a great inspiration to all Typhoons  and others.
My wife Charlotte (Wheeler Sims - NNHS 55) and I were very saddened  to hear the news of her sudden death, and know that she will be missed by all her family and friends.
                             Bruce Sims (NNHS 56)

   Thank you so much, Bruce.  Telling you and Charlotte about the site enabling you to join us was one of the very many ways that Kathy enriched all our lives.


  From Jay Styles ('68) of VA - 03/11/06:

Last night I was saddened to learn of the passing of your friend, Kathy P. Clark.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and her family. 

In the last couple of weeks, we have lost a new Trooper who was shot and killed, and a retired Trooper whom I have known for twenty years. 

Life is short, way too short.  Grab your kids and loved ones, give them a hug and hold on for as long as you can, and don't fret the small stuff, for indeed, the torch is being passed to our generation and our once invulnerable coat of armor is no more. 

Typhoons take care.

Jay Styles, '68

   Oh, Jay, I'm so sorry for the losses you have sustained, too!

   And your words are so very true.  We tend to think, "I'll do that tomorrow, I'll make that call or visit, I'll write that note, I'll say those words, I'll give that hug and kiss then," and sometimes - all too often - that opportunity is forever lost to us.  Thank you so much for that reminder!


   This information is also cross-referenced here:



 From Me ('65) of NC - 03/10/06:

   I was having trouble locating an appropriate hymn to use for Kathy's Memorial page.  My thoughts returned so often to this one - and to Kathy's words about it just two months ago - that I thought it must only be right to use it. 

From: http://www.nnhs65.00freehost.com/01-09-06-NNHS-The-Leader-of-the-Pack.html

  From Kathy Pilgrim Clark ('63) of VA - 01/07/06 - "A note":

.... I was very pleased to see that you liked what I wrote about Epiphany last year

   Of course!  You did an outstanding job!

I was also surprised to learn that you weren't familiar with the tune 'Morning Star'.  It is a standard in the Episcopal Church.  As kids in choir, we used to know that Christmas was over when we sang Morning Star.  We don't sing carols during advent so we really only sing them from Christmas Eve until Epiphany, the end of Christmastide in the church calendar.  Such a short window of opportunity for so many lovely songs.  And Morning Star is hymn-like, not like a carol. 


   Y'all take extra good care of each other!  TYPHOONS FOREVER!

                          Love to all, Carol


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Brightest and Best of the Sons of the Morning

Lyrics by Bishop Reginald Heber (1783-1826), 1811

Heber originally wrote this hymn for the Feast of the Epiphany, January 6. It was first published
in the
Christian Observer in 1811, but did not appear in hymnals until after Heber's death.

Music: "Morning Star," James Proctor Harding, 1892

1. Brightest and best of the sons of the morning,
Dawn on our darkness and lend us thine aid;
Star of the East, the horizon adorning,
Guide where our infant Redeemer is laid.

2. Cold on His cradle the dewdrops are shining;
Low lies His head with the beasts of the stall.
Angels adore Him in slumber reclining,
Maker and Monarch and Savior of all.

3. Shall we not yield Him, In costly devotion,
Odors of Edom and offerings divine,
Gems of the mountain and pearls of the ocean,
Myrrh from the forest and gold from the mine?

4. Vainly we offer each ample oblation,
Vainly with gifts would His favor secure.
Richer by far is the heart's adoration;
Dearer to God are the prayers of the poor.

5. Brightest and best of the sons of the morning,
Dawn on our darkness and lend us thine aid;
Star of the East, the horizon adorning,
Guide where our infant Redeemer is laid.

"Brightest and Best of the Sons of the Morning" midi and lyrics
courtesy of http://www.hymnsandcarolsofchristmas.com/Hymns_and_Carols/brightest_and_best_of_the_sons_o.htm - 01/06/06

"Brightest and Best of the Sons of the Morning" Sheet Music by Mr. H. S. Irons from Rev. Richard R. Chope,
Carols For Use In Church (London: William Clowes & Sons, 1894), Carol #137

Blackwork Flowers Divider Line clip art courtesy of http://www.bravenet.com - 08/12/04

Greg Olsen Paintings courtesy of http://gregolsengallery.com 03/15/05

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