- Compassion filled letter
Kids' Advice on Love and Marriage
HOW DO YOU DECIDE WHOM TO MARRY?
You got to find somebody who likes the same stuff. Like, if you like
sports, she should like it that you like sports, and she should keep the
chips and dip coming.
* Alan, age 10
No person really decides before they grow up who they're going to marry.
God decides it all way before, and you get to find out later who you're
* Kirsten, age 10
WHAT IS THE RIGHT AGE TO GET MARRIED?
Twenty-three is the best age because you know the person FOREVER by
* Camille, age 10
No age is good to get married at. You got to be a fool to get married.
* Freddie, age 6
HOW CAN A STRANGER TELL IF TWO PEOPLE ARE MARRIED?
You might have to guess, based on whether they seem to be yelling at the
* Derrick, age 8
WHAT DO YOU THINK YOUR MOM AND DAD HAVE IN COMMON?
Both don't want any more kids.
* Lori, age 8
WHAT DO MOST PEOPLE DO ON A DATE?
Dates are for having fun, and people should use them to get to know each
other. Even boys have something to say if you listen long enough.
* Lynnette, age 8
On the first date, they just tell each other lies, and that usually gets
them interested enough to go for a second date.
* Martin, age 10
WHAT WOULD YOU DO ON A FIRST DATE THAT WAS TURNING SOUR?
I'd run home and play dead. The next day I would call all the newspapers
and make sure they wrote about me in all the dead columns.
* Craig, age 9
WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?
When they're rich.
* Pam, age 7
The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn't want to mess with
* Curt, age 7
The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry them
and have kids with them. It's the right thing to do.
* Howard, age 8
IS IT BETTER TO BE SINGLE OR MARRIED?
I don't know which is better, but I'll tell you one thing. I'm never
going to have sex with my wife. I don't want to be all grossed out.
* Theodore, age 8
It's better for girls to be single but not for boys. Boys need someone
to clean up after them.
* Anita, age 9
HOW WOULD THE WORLD BE DIFFERENT IF PEOPLE DIDN'T GET MARRIED?
There sure would be a lot of kids to explain, wouldn't there?
*Kelvin, age 8
"And the #1 Favorite is........"
HOW WOULD YOU MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK?
Tell your wife that she looks pretty, even if she looks like a truck.
*Ricky, age 10
JUST BE YOU
Be yourself. There is nothing more for you to do than to be the best YOU
that you can be - with no imitation, no pretense, no guilt, no shame.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
A teenager brings her
new boyfriend home to meet her parents. They are appalled by his
haircut, his tattoos, his piercings.
Later, the girl's mom says, "Dear, he doesn't seem to be a very nice
"Oh, please, Mom!" says the daughter. "If he wasn't nice, would he be
doing 500 hours of community service?"
Three Silent Monks
Three monks were silently meditating far away from any other people or
any modern conveniences.
After one year of silence, the first monk remarked, "Pretty cold here."
Another year passed in silence and the second monk said, "You know,
A third year went by and the third monk said, "Look, I'll have to find
somewhere else to meditate if you two don't stop complaining!"
Guaranteed to Roll Your Eyes --------------*
As the high school teacher was correcting essays written by her students
she read, "Pedro jumped on his burrow and rode off into the sunset."
She wrote at the bottom of the page, "You obviously have problems with
homonyms. A burrow is a hole in the ground. A burro is an ass. At your
age it's time to learn the difference."
Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old.
- Franz Kafka
It is always the simple that produces the marvelous.
- Amelia Barr
See beauty in unexpected places.
- Mary Anne Radmacher
You have a choice about the perspective you take on life. See tragedy,
and the world is tragic - see beauty, and the world is beautiful.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
How I'm Like a Pencil
It occurs to me that I have a lot in common with a pencil. That's right
– a simple and humble little pencil. Not the fancy mechanical kind.
That's too high maintenance for me. And I'm not as showy as a plume pen
or as smooth as a ball point. I don't live in bold strokes like a heavy
marker. But I'm a lot like a pencil. Here's how:
Like a pencil, I have a built-in eraser. I can correct my mistakes. No,
I can't change the past, but I can make it right again. And if I can't
erase history (after all, what's done is done) I can at least erase a
great deal of guilt and anger with forgiveness.
Like a pencil, I do better if I'm sharpened once in a while. My mind and
skills grow dull without occasional honing. Even my spirit and attitudes
need refining if I'm to be at my best. And there is something else, too.
I find that the difficulties of life wear away at me, and they can
either grind me down or shape me into a person who is more capable and
creative. The sharpening I get from living through tough times is often
painful, but I know it can make me a better person.
Pencils work best in a skilled hand. And like a pencil, I can do some
pretty terrific things with a little guidance. Other people bring out
the best in me, and with the help of others, I can do far more than I
ever can alone.
Like a pencil, I should leave my mark whenever possible. I too often
underestimate my influence on another. I have daily opportunities to
leave something good behind. That is what it means to leave my mark. It
may be in small ways, it may be in the lives of people I love, people I
have touched or nurtured, or even in incidental conversations struck
with strangers. But, I have a mark to leave and should use every
opportunity to leave something good behind.
Like a pencil, it is what is on the inside that matters. A pencil
without lead is useless. And a yellow pencil will not do when a black or
red pencil is called for. What is on the inside is all important. My
outer appearance matters less than I probably think, while it's the
stuff on the inside that folks notice about me. Whether it is
understanding or intolerance, love or bitterness, peace or unrest,
kindness or self-centeredness, hope or despair, courage or fear, what is
on the inside matters most.
A pencil works best on paper or canvass. It will never leave its mark on
water and will wear itself down against a mirror. I do best knowing my
strengths and limitations. I can't do everything well and that is okay.
There is still plenty of good to be done by doing what I do best.
And finally, like a pencil, the biggest part of my purpose in this life
can be summed up in three words: to be useful. When I'm too broken to
hold together, when everything is ground away or worn away, when I no
longer have anything to contribute, I know my life is coming to an end.
Like I said, I have a lot in common with a pencil.
~ Steve Goodier ~
Thanks so much, Shari - there's a lot of "good stuff" here!